What Others Might Say
The second fear that we learn early in life, which then affects us for the rest of our lives, is the fear of rejection, or criticism. We are all sensitive to the opinions of others, especially to the opinions and reactions of our parents when we are growing up. Parents often take advantage of this [...]
Fear of Trying Anything New
This feeling of “I can’t” begins the development of the fear of failure. If you are discouraged or punished too often as a child, very early in life you will become fearful of trying new things. This fear will then carry over into later childhood, adolescence and adult life. Thereafter, whenever you think of doing [...]
Your Two Natural Qualities (2)
The first negative habit pattern that you learn is called the inhibitive negative habit pattern. This is what soon becomes the fear of failure, risk and loss. As a child,your natural urge is to explore your environment. You eagerly reach out to touch, taste, feel and experiment with everything around you. But often your parents [...]
Your Two Natural Qualities (1)
When you are born, you come into the world with two natural qualities. First, you are completely unafraid. You are totally fearless. You have no reason to be afraid because you have had no experiences to make you afraid. The second natural quality that you are born with is that you are completely spontaneous. You [...]
The Foundation of Your Personality
At this point, many people ask, “Where does your self-concept come from? How does it begin? How does it develop? What are the major influences that shape your self-concept and how can you change your self-concept once it has developed?” These are vital questions, and there are definite answers for them.
The fact is that each [...]
Positive Self-Talk Shapes Your Personality
One of the most important habits you can develop is the habit of talking to yourself positively most of the time. And the most positive words that you can use throughout the day, especially prior to any event of importance or significance, are the words “I like myself!” You cannot say these words to yourself [...]
The Best Definition of Self-Esteem
The very best definition of self-esteem is, “How much you like yourself.” What we have found is that, the more you like yourself, the better you do. And the better you do, the more you like yourself. Each time you perform well in any area, your selfesteem goes up. You like yourself more, and you [...]
Comparing Your Behavior With Your Ideal
Your self-esteem is affected by many factors. One of the most important is the distance between your self-image, the way you see yourself in the moment, and your self-ideal, the way you would ideally like to be sometime in the future.
Whenever you feel that your current performance and behavior is consistent with the best person [...]
The Core of Your Personality
The third part of your self-concept is your self-esteem. This is the feeling or
emotional component of your personality, the “reactor core” of your subconscious mind. Your level of self-esteem determines the vitality and energy of your personality and is the control valve on your performance.
Most psychologists today agree that your level of self-esteem is the [...]
Your Values Shape Your Personality (2)
If you see yourself as positive, popular, productive and successful on the inside, that is exactly how you will act on the outside. The way you behave on the outside will largely determine the results that you get. The results that you get willreinforce your self-concept, in either a positive or negative way, and will [...]
